Thursday, February 17, 2011

Decisions, Decisions...

A comforting reminder on a greeting card made by
PaPaYa!  The circle, to me, represents pure consciousness.

There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
-Friedrich Nietzsche

**Are you having difficulty making a decision? If you are, here are a couple of methods that you can use that might make your task a little easier.

One of the reasons we have difficulty making a decision is because we often do what other people want us to do and not what WE truly want to do. When making a decision, try to take out all the factors that influence your decision, and then you should see more clearly what you want to do. 

This means that you need to sit down when no one is going to bother you and pretend that whatever decision you have to make will be perfectly okay with everyone else in the world.

For example, if you were trying to decide whether to separate in a marriage, imagine that if you left, your partner would be neutral about it and any kids would be perfectly fine. Relatives would agree with you. Friends would support and encourage you. There would be enough money. Fear would be non-existent because everything would turn out great. No one would say anything negative to you, only words suggesting that the decision you made was the right one.

Get yourself to the point where you feel that and then ask yourself: If everyone was okay with my decision, what would I do? This should give you a clearer answer. Taking out the mind clutter and outside influences helps you get to the bottom of what you truly desire.

I used to have a lot of difficulty making decisions for myself, and then I was given the above exercise. It made the decision-making process a lot easier. I got to the heart of what I truly wanted instead of letting myself be guided by guilt or fear. I started taking responsibility for my own actions and did not allow myself to guided by all these people who thought they knew what was best for me. I discovered that I knew what was best for me.

**She said it first and she said it best... therefore this is reprinted from an article written by Wendy Kay

(My two cents: whether this decision is big or small, life changing or life enhancing...what color to paint your kitchen or if you should cut your hair, if you should go back to school, get married, quit your job... any and all decisions should be made with your heart.  I have learned by experience these are the decisions you will never regret.)



  1. Great advice. I am terrible at second guessing myself and sticking with decisions I've made. And I think it's gotten worse since being married, haha.
    Oh, I found your post on SITS. Feel free to stop by my blog if you have time. I'm having a little giveaway too.

  2. Another lesson I learned with age. I gave up asking what everyone else thinks I should do and stuck with my heart and gut. And every decision was the best I've ever made! :o)

    Bravo! Yet another fantastic blog!

  3. Right on, Karen... it's the only way to go. You are the only person who truly knows what's right for you. Keep in mind another valuable insight: even though you may follow your heart, things don't always work out as planned. And that's OK. At least you will always have peace. Regrets and "what ifs?" can and do haunt you!